At certain point of our life, we have to some face issues that comes into our way. Issues may be major and some you can just brush off once it comes into your way. What ever it is, facing your problem is the best way to do it not by running away or some even keep it to themselves.
For some, keeping it to themselves is not what they wanted to do but probably due to the surrounding or the "air" around them they choose to keep mum and suffer along the way. Some affect their health and for the other some, it affect them mentally.
Problem may be a problem between you and your spouse or between you and your co-worker. But the most dangerous ones are the one you are having with your own self. This silent things you're having within you.
I read in a man magazine admits of having the need to sleep around with many partners. This man is married and have kids of his own and he says his wife is a wonderful person with wonderful personality. She's great in the sack as well. But that is not going to stop that man from prowling around looking for a "pussy" after another. Well just look at what happen to our golfing great recently and just couple of days ago, another man admits of having extra marital "affairs".
Having said that, this is not confined to men only. I know some women who actually go out to have their "fix" days after days and night. This group of people is not satisfied with just one and they have the need to have the extra "fix". Just like drug addicts. After a while you get addicted to it and you can't actually live without doing that.
That for those who actually go out to have their fix. But what about those who did not? They have fantasies of having these extra partners and it sometimes become an ailing in their mind. They are fixed to pornography, which thanks to the internet, is easily available with a click of the mouse. Compared to the one who goes out this group is sicker than the one who actually go out and F some girls somewhere. I think that is why we are having all kind of problem nowadays with the society. An adult molesting a 3 or 4 year old girl or a gang of young men violating a school girl.
For some, that is not the problem, but rather they are not satisfied with their partners. Probably they are great in bed but in the "emotion" department they are somewhat lacking. Thus, the partner is left to what Malay says "makan hati". Some partner just wait and for most they just pack their bags and leave. They talk to their friends and some even find a shoulder to cry on. This altogether will start another story between them. Usually, the victim, the neglected wife will talk and get somebody to listen and the great listener, if he is a person who can smell thing can score with the victim if he plays the right card and provide the victim with what the victim did not get at home.
Some of the victim tried to talk with the partner but most of the time, it is just a waste of time and some even created new set of problem if they are beaten up by the person they confronted for the issues.
But whatever it is, the best solution is to talk over, dissect the problem you are having and seek help. Talk to professionals. Fix it. The worst thing you can do is just to play along be it the active ones or the passive ones. Be fair to yourselves. Ask yourselves what is the right thing to do. I am no expert in solving people's problem but believe me, I know.
