Look at it in the positive manner
The Star reported today that a groups of women activist actually went to the parliament opposing the Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories) Bill saying that it is discrimination against women. I quote them saying “… concerned that these and other amendments in the Bill will result in further injustice and discrimination against women…” What kind of injustice are we talking about here? The right of a man to marry than one or the procedure of a man to divorce his wife is made easier? Or was it about the property? I think the matter about property is the point that would be debated the most. Which proves one point here and none other. I will not point out what. I can guarantee it would cause uproar in the women community for not being sensitive.
I have read the proposed amendments to the Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories) Act 1984 and I think that the proposed amendments were made to get away from all the red tapes previously caused by the provisions itself and under the Shariah laws, all of the provisions are there already. I mean what can stop a man to chase after another woman if he feels like doing so. If his penis (usually it is the reproductive organ that does the thinking) says he wants another pussy (I don’t mean cat and a better and tighter one I assumed), then another pussy it is. If he thinks with his head, I mean using his brain, then nothing like this would happen. Right? Who would want to think about feeding extra heads and if you are lucky another 5 extra. Don’t give me the crap about the Prophet had so many wives. Don’t even start to compare yourself (men) with the Holy Prophet. We are not even close. So don’t use that argument with me.
I have some friends who are extremely and still “gatal” or “miang” when it comes to women. Even if they are married. So rather than making it difficult, why not we make things easier. Nothing in the Holy Quran says a man should get the first wife approval for him to marry another. But a man need to be just towards to women he marry either one, two, three or four. What is just is yet to be outlined. Let me give you some example. Do we need to buy a blouse for your other wives if you buy a blouse for one of them? Would it be unjust if we didn’t buy a blouse for the other wives but we get them some other things? The debate remains. Would you (women) rather have husband who had one night fling with women he met at the bar/supermarket/bus stops etc or would you rather think that it is better for him to have another wife. At least it lifts some burden off your shoulder. Right? Think about this, you don’t have to think about him for one night when he’s at your “madu” house. You can rest that night and think about your husband ordering your "madu" to do this and that for him. He does that to you, what makes you think he wouldn't do it to your "madu"?
Then it comes to divorce matter. I know some people who are still waiting to get approval from the Shariah Court to carry on with their life. Divorce not finalize matter etc. etc. and how on earth can a divorce not be finalized? I mean after the “lafaz” the divorce is valid already and the period of “eddah” would start from that moment. This woman I know has been waiting for more than ten (10) years to get her case finalize and get married to another man. Is this what you want?
I wouldn’t discuss about the property part but I’d like to say this. If your husband marry another, that means he has another mouth to satisfy. Which mouth, it depends. But as a man, it is his responsibility to give maintenance to his other wife as well. If you (women) were defending women’s right here, you would allow your husband to divide the assets and properties evenly. That is required in Islam. If you don’t allow your husband to do so, I bet another woman will be neglected because I am sure that your husband marry another woman as his second, third or forth wife. Unless your husband marries transvestites, then you would do unjust to your own kind and you would be against your principles already. Stand up and speak up for the women. Have you ever think of this matter this way. Properties or not, we are going to die one day. As long as we live comfortably so what the fuss of having more assets and/or properties compared to your husband.
Before I go, let answer these questions. Why should we take things negatively? Not all husbands will go and marry another woman once the amendment takes place. Why should we strip our husband from what he earned or what he has if he marries another woman? Don’t we believe in the principle of sharing anymore? We tell our kids to share toys with the siblings but when it come to us. It is all about me. Is that the world we are living in? Materialistic world? Is it all about money and properties? Why should we envy each other in such ways? These are the questions we should ask ourselves before we do anything stupid. So let just see what is going to happen next because truthfully, nothing can challenge the authority of the reveled laws from the Heavens and for the men, please think with your brain before taking another woman as your wife. It will hurt one party or two if you do it without thinking. I have seen incidents where things didn’t go smoothly after the second marriage and the statistics at every state Islamic authority can back me when I say that.
I have read the proposed amendments to the Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories) Act 1984 and I think that the proposed amendments were made to get away from all the red tapes previously caused by the provisions itself and under the Shariah laws, all of the provisions are there already. I mean what can stop a man to chase after another woman if he feels like doing so. If his penis (usually it is the reproductive organ that does the thinking) says he wants another pussy (I don’t mean cat and a better and tighter one I assumed), then another pussy it is. If he thinks with his head, I mean using his brain, then nothing like this would happen. Right? Who would want to think about feeding extra heads and if you are lucky another 5 extra. Don’t give me the crap about the Prophet had so many wives. Don’t even start to compare yourself (men) with the Holy Prophet. We are not even close. So don’t use that argument with me.
I have some friends who are extremely and still “gatal” or “miang” when it comes to women. Even if they are married. So rather than making it difficult, why not we make things easier. Nothing in the Holy Quran says a man should get the first wife approval for him to marry another. But a man need to be just towards to women he marry either one, two, three or four. What is just is yet to be outlined. Let me give you some example. Do we need to buy a blouse for your other wives if you buy a blouse for one of them? Would it be unjust if we didn’t buy a blouse for the other wives but we get them some other things? The debate remains. Would you (women) rather have husband who had one night fling with women he met at the bar/supermarket/bus stops etc or would you rather think that it is better for him to have another wife. At least it lifts some burden off your shoulder. Right? Think about this, you don’t have to think about him for one night when he’s at your “madu” house. You can rest that night and think about your husband ordering your "madu" to do this and that for him. He does that to you, what makes you think he wouldn't do it to your "madu"?
Then it comes to divorce matter. I know some people who are still waiting to get approval from the Shariah Court to carry on with their life. Divorce not finalize matter etc. etc. and how on earth can a divorce not be finalized? I mean after the “lafaz” the divorce is valid already and the period of “eddah” would start from that moment. This woman I know has been waiting for more than ten (10) years to get her case finalize and get married to another man. Is this what you want?
I wouldn’t discuss about the property part but I’d like to say this. If your husband marry another, that means he has another mouth to satisfy. Which mouth, it depends. But as a man, it is his responsibility to give maintenance to his other wife as well. If you (women) were defending women’s right here, you would allow your husband to divide the assets and properties evenly. That is required in Islam. If you don’t allow your husband to do so, I bet another woman will be neglected because I am sure that your husband marry another woman as his second, third or forth wife. Unless your husband marries transvestites, then you would do unjust to your own kind and you would be against your principles already. Stand up and speak up for the women. Have you ever think of this matter this way. Properties or not, we are going to die one day. As long as we live comfortably so what the fuss of having more assets and/or properties compared to your husband.
Before I go, let answer these questions. Why should we take things negatively? Not all husbands will go and marry another woman once the amendment takes place. Why should we strip our husband from what he earned or what he has if he marries another woman? Don’t we believe in the principle of sharing anymore? We tell our kids to share toys with the siblings but when it come to us. It is all about me. Is that the world we are living in? Materialistic world? Is it all about money and properties? Why should we envy each other in such ways? These are the questions we should ask ourselves before we do anything stupid. So let just see what is going to happen next because truthfully, nothing can challenge the authority of the reveled laws from the Heavens and for the men, please think with your brain before taking another woman as your wife. It will hurt one party or two if you do it without thinking. I have seen incidents where things didn’t go smoothly after the second marriage and the statistics at every state Islamic authority can back me when I say that.
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