Why?

i received yet another wedding invitation today and it is in Melaka, lahanat betul. the groom has been my roommate since i was in the matriculation centre until i got a new room mate (my wife lor). so, we spent almost 7 years together. the other invitation was from my other room mate (this one is in Segamat) and he's quite a character.

despite all the invitations, nobody had guessed that i would be among the first to get married and yes to be a father. of course i didn't bother to invite any of them except for certain couples because of several reasons (i don't want to deliberate the reasons here). the crux of it all is because most of them didn't grow up. they still have the undergrad mentality. They go out with the same group still. yes the same people they go out in the university and they still talk about the same things... which karaoke place should they go or who's dating who or who sleeping with who? oh *gosh* people grow up. that were the questions an 18 year old would ask lah...not a 28 year old person would ask...

at my cousin's wedding (yeah i introduced them to my cousin not knowing that they will be in my life for eternity) i met a couple of them who still think that they are still in the university and suprisingly one of them is already married. but no, he choose to cling with his "buddies" and leave his wife at home... feeding on something i supposed. why? why?why? don't you have some kind of responsibility to fulfill. what's the possible excuse can be given to explain such behaviour?

don't get me wrong here, i am not telling the world once you graduate you have to forget all your friends. keep in touch, yes but do you have to cling to them like a group of monkeys? i hope for those who are getting married (HH and RY) will take the extraordinary steps forward and take the role of being a husband (well i have yet to fill in the shoes properly). there are 1000000 things for me to learn (being a husband and a father) and i am at no 99. so i have another 999901 things to learn (if i live that long). but i think i have evolved from being a student to a person i am today. why can't these people?